One Small Gift. One Big Life Change.
Hi, welcome in! I’m RJ, an architectural designer in South Carolina with a passion for design, creativity, and community. I’m searching for a kidney donor and sharing my story with the hope of finding a match and hopefully inspiring others during this journey.
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My Story:
Architecture has always been how I make sense of the world—the craft of taking abstract things and giving them form. Lately, I’ve become both the architect and the blueprint, rebuilding myself piece by piece.
As my friends and family know, I’m not particularly fond of the spotlight. Sharing this part of my life feels deeply vulnerable, and finding the right words hasn’t been easy. But I’ve come to realize that you can’t receive help if you don’t ask for it.
I'm currently living with kidney failure. Dialysis keeps me going, but it's not living—it's surviving. My doctors say a transplant is the best option for me to get off dialysis and give me my life back. Not just more time, but real time. Time to channel my energy into creating again—creating architecture, fostering connection, and designing spaces where all people can live and thrive.
As I await placement on the transplant list and hope for a matching donor, I’m preparing to start home dialysis. It’s less taxing on my body and a good bridge toward a future transplant.
This new chapter feels like an opportunity to rebuild—to restore the energy to create again. To wake up with mornings that don’t feel heavy before the day even begins.
So here I am. Hoping that someone out there reading my story is willing to be a donor and might be a match. Hoping that by sharing this, I'm building a bridge to a future I can actually live in, not just get through.
Why a Living Kidney Donor Matters
Better Outcomes
Living donor kidneys last nearly twice as long as deceased donor kidneys, dramatically improving transplant success rates and long-term quality of life.
Shorter Wait Times
Every day, thousands wait on transplant lists facing uncertain timelines. Finding a living donor can reduce the wait from years to months, potentially saving lives.
Donors
Donors live normal lives after donating. They spend 2-3 days in the hospital and have a 4-6 week recovery after surgery. Once recovered they won't notice any difference between having one working kidney or two.
Living Donor Resources:
Kind Words from Friends & Family
“RJ approaches life with quiet determination and a generous spirit that uplifts everyone around him. He’s one of the most conscientious and thoughtful people I know—careful with his words, steady in his actions, and patient in the face of challenges. He knows how to find humor even in the darkest moments and uses those moments to bring people closer together.”
—Janet, friend
“RJ is my lifelong friend and ardent supporter throughout our years of friendship. There are few people in this lifetime who will simultaneously uplift you while keeping you grounded in reality and humbled at the same time. Some people might adopt for themselves the negativity within this works, but RJ continually uses this same negativity in the surrounding world to increase his understanding and compassion.”
—Kamaal, longtime friend
“RJ has become a dear friend and a true source of inspiration to me. I’ve watched him face countless obstacles with unwavering strength and determination, never giving up no matter what life throws his way. Even while facing his own challenges, RJ continues to uplift and encourage those around him. My friend is a fighter, and I know he will carry that same spirit through this journey. RJ is a light in this world—and we need that light to keep shining..”
—Jennifer, friend
“I met RJ as a new student in architecture school at Clemson over 10 years ago. In that time, I obviously had the opportunity to watch him grow as a designer, but more importantly, he’s grown as a leader, a man, and a brother. His presence is felt in every room he walks in. He brings joy and encouragement to everyone around him. I pray God continues to breathe life into him, so that he can continue to bless everyone who crosses his path.”
—Julian, friend
“RJ is a humble, warm and approachable individual who connects effortlessly with people of all ages and backgrounds. His ability to foster genuine relationships is a testament to his empathy and interpersonal skills. He is also highly creative, self-driven and motivated—qualities that make him stand out in any endeavor he pursues.”
—Sonya, friend
“RJ has supported my growth in countless small but meaningful ways that have had a lasting impact. I still remember my first career fair — he took the time to guide me on how to approach and talk to professionals, and those tips continue to help me in my career today. RJ is not only a great leader but also someone who is always willing to help. His kindness, guidance, and dedication to the well-being of his community truly go a long way.”
—Shamitha, college friend
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Words of Encouragement
“To RJ, You are my brother and will always be. The adversity we faced together and independently, yet overcame, were all preparation to face the challenges of this moment. I love you and know that this moment is just a test of faith that you will again pass.”
—Kamaal, longtime friend
“RJ, it has been great working with you. Thank you for keeping us laughing and bringing such positive vibes to this workplace.”
—Dhia, colleague
“RJ has a big heart and would support anyone through any challenge. Let’s please help him here!”
—Shane, friend
“Your grace and attitude in the face of this adversity is impressive. You got this. Keep that spark. You are a healthy young candidate for a transplant, and I send my strongest you get one as soon as possible. If you ever want to raise awareness toward potential donors and want to spread the word with something shareable to our networks let me know.”
—Chris, colleague
“RJ you and your family has been, and will continue to be, in our thoughts and prayers. Please let us know how we can see if we are compatible donors. Keep your head up RJ. You got this! Love you brother.”
—Anthony, friend
“RJ, you are a light to this world. I do not know if I have ever seen you without a smile on your face. My thoughts & prayers are with you during this challenging time you are facing. Prayers for healing and strength my friend.”
—Whitney, college friend
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How to Help
  1. Consider Becoming a Living Donor
    You don’t have to be a perfect match — transplant programs can pair donors and recipients through kidney exchange networks, saving multiple lives in the process.
  1. Share My Story
    Every share helps! You never know who might see it or who might feel called to act.
  1. Sign Up
    If you’re interested in being tested as a possible donor, sign up at the form below so we can keep track of potential donors.
  1. Get More Info
    Follow the link to my transplant center of choice to learn more about their transplant program.
  1. Help With Supplies
    If you would like to help with my journey by purchasing needed supplies, you can do so here: Kidney supplies
Donor Interest Form
I still have some medical items to take care of before the full process can officially start. Please fill out this form and we will get back to you when it's time for testing.
Transplant Center
MUSC Transplant Center
135 Rutledge Avenue
Charleston, SC 29425
Phone: 843-792-2300
Thank you!
Thank you for taking the time to learn my story.
Your kindness, prayers, and support mean more than words can say.
—RJ
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